The Dustin Barham Case: Dating Apps, Catfishes, And A Brutal Murder

[Tulsa, Oklahoma]

On July 25th, 2018, the body of Dustin Barham was found shot in his truck.

He was known as a very innocent man with a learning disability who enjoyed working and video games. Dustin never had any drug or relationship issues. His gunshot wounds were located in each leg and his right elbow — the fatal one being to the thigh.

Police noticed a blood trail leading from an apartment complex to a parking lot nearby. The trail caused authorities to conclude he was fleeing to his car for safety after being shot. He even attempted to drive away, but slammed into another car and slowly died.

There was also a wallet on the ground in the breezeway of some apartments with a couple of one dollar bills hanging out of it. Another discovery that proved to be the key to solving his murder was a phone on the floorboard of the truck.

A search of his phone revealed multiple notifications from a dating app called MeetMe. It is a social networking app where people typically create accounts to find a partner or friend — similar to Tinder. Just minutes before he met up with his killer, his bank activity showed he made an 80 dollar withdrawal.

A tip was sent in to police claiming that he was set up by two cousins, Kelsey and Allie. According to the police database, Kelsey Lipp (23) *left* already had previous charges for robbery with a firearm after she set a man up on Backpage. Aleczandria Reinhardt (27) *right* had no prior convictions.

Investigators were able to bring in Allie for questioning where she admitted Kelsey was 100 dollars short on rent, so she created a MeetMe account under the name Kayla. That night, Kelsey and Allie were also with Allie’s boyfriend, Dalone Gay (24).

“We was going to rob him…nothing else…nothing more” she explained. Kelsey talked as “Kayla” on the social networking app telling Dustin to walk through the apartment’s breezeway. Meanwhile, Dalone sat in wait until he saw him. At some point, there was a struggle for the money which caused Dalone to fire off four shots.

Dalone was charged with first degree murder and he has not been sentenced yet. Aleczandria Reinhardt was charged with first degree murder as well and has not been sentenced yet.

Kelsey Lipp was charged with first degree murder and robbery. However, her sentencing is a little more tricky because she is a part of the Cherokee Nation. Under a landmark Supreme Court decision last month declaring that a huge patch of Oklahoma sits on a Native American reservation, the state can not prosecute Kelsey. As her case was handed off to tribal courts, it became clear that her sentencing may take a lot longer than expected. The court system explained they only have two judges and need more money and staff to handle all the cases they are given.




23. Sociology & Criminal Justice Major. True Crime Fanatic. Writer. All articles are tossed together from the comfort of my couch.

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Holly Alexis

Holly Alexis

23. Sociology & Criminal Justice Major. True Crime Fanatic. Writer. All articles are tossed together from the comfort of my couch.

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